The Special Obligation of the Sufferer

  • Jon K. Amundson
Keywords: risk management, loss aversion, reflective and deliberate effort, resilience, post traumatic growth


There are a number of inter-personal and intra-personal dynamics which affect/define the role of “sufferer” and that of the other encountering suffering. What follows is discussion regarding the role of each, and the paradoxical obligation of the beleaguered to assist in the management of their suffering through charity toward the other.



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